This is a story that has made the rounds over the years, but is just too good not to share…

There was a businesswoman sitting in the airport waiting for her flight. A gentleman sat down next to her. Her open bag of mini-cookies was between them. She reached in, grabbed one, and started to munch. A moment later he smiled at her and he reached in and grabbed one himself, not saying a word.

It is easy to see something that is "off" and allow a desire to blot it out to well up within us. This is of course understandable, but when it comes to dealing with ourselves, often not the right idea. It is not, of course, that discipline and will power have no value—they obviously have great value—but using our will to prevent a negative tendency can be exhausting and somewhat self-defeating.

I believe a humorous story can often be more effective than the expounding of an idea. To that end, there are a couple of stories I’d like to share this week with a similar theme: that we are not as much in charge as we think! The part of our lives that is our responsibility should receive 100% of our focus and energy, of course, but there is more going on beneath the surface than we are aware of…

Yogananda spoke about being even-minded and cheerful in all circumstances. The mind immediately goes to an extreme. "Do you mean to tell me that if this horrible thing happens [fill in your own blank] I am supposed to stay even-minded and cheerful? How absurd!"

This is a trick of the mind. Rather than seeing success as directional improvement, it latches onto an extreme, to show that whatever thought it does not like is therefore unrealistic.

Perhaps you have seen one of those old movies about a hard-working scientist. He suddenly shouts “Eureka—I found it!” with great joy. It’s a well-known cliche, but there is perhaps a bit of a flaw in the depiction.

There’s a great quote uttered by John Kenneth Galbraith, famed Harvard economist:

Faced with the choice between changing one’s mind and proving that there is no need to do so, almost everyone gets busy on the proof.

It is of course quite perceptive and somewhat endearing, but the deeper question is… why is it so true?

I have just returned from Italy and was with many friends at the large Ananda center there. It reminded me of an experience from years ago that is a great subject for this week's letter...

A friend of mine was talking with an atheist one day. As the topic drifted to God and he described his atheism, she had a marvelous reply: "I don't believe in the same God that you don't believe in."

I have recently run up against a pandemic perhaps more dangerous, and certainly more widespread, than the one that caught all the news recently: perfectionism. If this afflicts you or someone you love, please read on (even if you discover a typo! :-) ).

I bet you do not fix your car yourself. I bet you do not fix your plumbing yourself. I bet you seek expert advice on complex tax situations. I bet you seek advice from a physical therapist if a muscle or joint problem persists. Why, then, are people so terribly hesitant to seek advice or guidance about something much more important: Their inner life, relationships, or even life in general?

I had a most interesting experience some time ago…

I went to Castro Street for a walk with my wife and to have a coffee at Red Rock. Outside the shop I saw a cute, tiny dog. A woman had the adult dog in a small baby carriage.

There’s a good friend of mine who is an American living in India, where he has been a teacher of yoga philosophy for many years. He has been a disciple of Yogananda for over 50 years, and is one of those I have looked up to as a friend and mentor for decades.

It is a natural tendency to focus on what would be better for everyone were a given situation different. Obviously there are times where focusing on and preventing something from happening is both best and entirely sensible.

But it is a habit of the mind to focus on the darkness and it is very often not particularly helpful for either the situation or for ourselves.

We live in such an us-centric universe in our own minds that we assume our perceptions are rock solid, so whatever we are seeing that is “off” must itself be out of whack. If you knew that someone had slipped a drug into your drink, you’d be less confident in your own perceptions as being true to reality. Well, the truth is — we all have been slipped a drug. The Yogis call it maya, the sanskrit word for “delusion."

I want to tackle a challenging topic this week. Yogananda said, "All conditions are neutral. It is our response to conditions that determines whether they are good or bad."

I thought to share some thoughts about the true meaning behind Easter according to deeper mystical teachings. After all, it's not just about hidden eggs, bunnies, and chocolate. (It'’s better than that. I promise...!)

The real resurrection is not about a man and a single miracle. It is about our own resurrection that is ready to take place in our minds and hearts.

This is a tricky topic because there are so many facets to it. On the one hand you might think, "What is a Spirit-oriented newsletter doing talking about money?" Rest assured, we will not be talking about the hottest investment trends, or how to get rich from the latest multi-level marketing scheme.

It is easy for some folks who are spiritually inclined to think that "meek and mild" is the way to go. That a lowered voice, slightly bowed head, and slow movements indicate great spirituality. Someone once said to my Teacher, "Several people are mad at me." His shocking reply was, "Good! It shows you are doing something!” Vivekananda said it is better to steal than lay around doing nothing. At least energy can be redirected through learning, but it is hard to create energy from nothing.

"You're stuck in your head." "Stop overthinking things." "Truth must be experienced, not understood." "Book learning is not real knowledge." — etc. The mind often gets a bad rap, but like many things with some truth in them, this oftentimes is due to a misunderstanding.

Music is a special thing. It has a way of going right to the heart in a way that bypasses the conscious mind. This is a good thing as our minds can thwart our best intentions at times. Vibration is often more important than content.